If the news weren’t real … as it is, I am agonized because the New York Times and Huffington Post report today there is a sperm donor who has spawn over 150 offspring. And sperm donors as yet register anonymously. I ask you: when will a child cease to be a proprietary package and gain basic rights like the right to know their heritage? Not sometimes at the discretion of a dysfunctional system years later, but guaranteed now?
Part of the task of this life is to learn our identity and become who we fully are. Why encumber a child with mystery or lies, instead of information? Why hamstring someone from the start? Selfishness comes to mind. But then the act of donating sperm is generous, isn’t it? Or is it to a point? A mother who is desperate to conceive may set aside these essential concerns, or more conscientiously as the article describes, seek the vital information her son will need to function in the world — that of the identity of the father.
Other disadvantages to multiple sperm donations done secretly include the possibility of incest in the donor children community. But never mind: the donor has the advantage of earning money for his sperm, while enduring no consequence whatsoever through disclosure of his identity. If the person desires no consequence, they should donate blood.
Would disclosure undermine sperm donation? Not in the lexicon of family today, where contact and communication are welcome. It’s not as though a donor wouldn’t have jurisdiction over the amount of involvement he has with his child. He could still choose.
To view the article: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/09/06/sperm-donor-system-under-_n_950664.html?1315331752&icid=maing-grid10%7Chtmlws-sb-bb%7Cdl6%7Csec1_lnk3%7C93085 Read it and weep; better yet, let us know your thoughts.
I believe it’s time to accord some reverence to the lives of children, who need to know and deserve to know their ancestry including their immediate ones. Every time. Guaranteed.